I'm back to my old
diggs! (With a little sprucing up from
Elle- Thank you again!)
I am really glad to be back to my old blog at
blogspot. I really didn't like
Typepad (because the pics are too small!), although I enjoyed my time working for
Clubmom.
I realize that it looks like a giant chunk of my life is missing. The whole story of my adoption has vanished from my blog. But it is not gone. I have 3 published books from my
Clubmom blog that tell the whole story and I will present them to Pineapple when she gets old enough. I am sure that the history of her story will be a priceless treasure. The first book is our journey to get Pineapple,
the second is her first 6 months home and the third is our adventures moving to Seoul ending with Christmas and the New Year. Quite an adventurous two years!
However, I look forward to the new year back in my old
diggs. It is nice to have our family all here- to have a lot of the rough edges smoothed out and to be calming down into a regular life. It is still a growing process with
Piney; however. We are still working on her feeling secure and trusting of others. As well as working on her articulation and vocabulary. I think the emotional aspects are a life long process with adopted children and I am prepared for that.
Pineapple received an American girl doll for Christmas. It is one of the baby dolls (not the older ones with hair). We have named the doll her original Russian name. Pineapple LOVES that. What is interesting is that she loves and cuddles and feeds her doll, pushes her in the stroller, makes sure she always has a hat and is never cold, etc. all the while saying her doll's name over and over. She tells me that her doll is crying and she holds her so tight and gives her a bottle, comforting her.
I wonder if she is healing her inner child.
Is she holding herself as a baby? Is she giving the love to herself that she didn't receive?
I am wondering if this is therapeutic for her or if I am just reading into it something that isn't there.
Either way, it is great to see how compassionate and affectionate she is with her doll. It shows me that despite her rocky
beginnings her little heart hasn't been hardened or broken. She has felt loved and consequently knows how to show it (even if it is a doll!).
Labels: after adoption: transitioning successfully
What a nice idea giving the doll Piney's original Russian name. Maybe it is healing for her. I'm sure you'll be able to tell. Most girls her age cuddle and treat their dolls sweetly and then dump them on their plastic heads. If she does that, then it's probably just typical play -- which is a good thing in and of itself.
Congrats on moving back to your old blog!
If you find the doll naked face down on the floor under the bed with her head twisted backwards?
Normal play.
But it sounds so sweet, and healing.
It's great how Piney gives her baby so much love and mothering - R~ has never been that into baby dolls which bummed me out because I love that kind of play. And I do think it's a very good sign of Piney's bonding and that she has learned about loving and being a good mommy from you.
Anyway, love the new (old) place. It's nice. :-)
BTW, what pineapple display is a role play. Girls like to use dolls for role play. She is comforting a crying doll means that she associate her experiences and memory of how you have held her and comfort her when she is crying and acted it out through her doll. It is normal and assuring to see this. My daughter did the same recently, she used her doll (telling me it is her and giving it a different name)and she told me how she fell down from her bed when she sleep(the bed guard was missing). So it is very common for children to role play through their experiences and memory through toys.
Is it possible to transfer your clubmom posts over to your blogspot?
It's great that Piney's showing love and affection to the doll no matter what the reason.
She's such a sweetheart!
Happy New YEar!
And by the way? I love the colors and header for this blog!